My best friend recommended these after having her first child. I love them because they’re affordable, readily available at any Target near you, and you can sleep in them instead of having to wear a maternity bra at night. I plan on putting nursing pads in mine.
I didn’t pack these in my hospital bag but I recommend them for when you bring baby home and have healed below-the-belt. I got a pair in gray and black. I like the wide band over the belly for post partum flab 🙂
The past few weeks for me have been filled with a lot of gifting – from a friend’s baby shower to giving hostess gifts or simply letting someone know I appreciate them, I thought it would be helpful to show you what I ended up choosing for each occasion, seeing as though I get stumped sometimes on what to give people!
Also, I’m an Anthropologie lover through and through (I worry that the term “love” doesn’t even fully explain how much I dig this store) I mean, I REALLY DIG IT, so it’s no surprise that Anthropologie is my go-to for all things gifts. They do an amazing job at carrying unique little “happies” at different price points, and I always find what I need there so a lot of my gift ideas (below) come from Anthro.
Our couple-best-friends so graciously threw us an intimate baby shower at their house. They hired a private chef to cook and serve just us four, and really went over the top in making the experience really special for us. Because of this, we wanted to bring something nice to say thank you! Since they cook together often, we thought it would be cute to put together a cooking basket for them. You could really have fun with this and mix up the content of the basket with a candle, a cheese board, cocktail book or shaker, cutlery, salt and pepper shakers, etc. See below for pricing breakdown.
The Forest Feast Cookbook: $35.00 @ Anthropologie
“H” Glasses: $18.00/ea @ Anthropologie
Copper Fruit Basket: $38.00 @ Anthropologie
Bonjour Dish Towel: $28.00 @ Anthropologie
We also gifted our bestie friends this herb set with the cooking basket, but it makes for a beautiful gift by itself! The herbs didn’t come with it, so if you do something similar, you’ll need to run to Lowes or Home Depot. It would also be cute to add herb markers to the pots.
Herb set: $32.00 @ Anthropologie
Rosemary, Cilantro and Oregano: $12 all together
My husbands side of the family threw us a co-ed baby shower cookout back at home (Mississippi), and we had 7 hostesses to buy gifts for. I needed something affordable but cute, and I fell in love with these ceramic butter dishes! We ended up wrapping each one in cellophane and tying a sprig of rosemary to the top!
Butter Dish: $24.00/ea @ Anthropologie
I found Parasol on instagram and FLIPPED when I saw their diaper patterns. What baby booty wouldn’t look adorable in these!? Their diapers are super absorbent, hypoallergenic, chlorine-free, fragrance-free, lotion-free and latex-free (and weren’t tested on animals!)
When we went home for our co-ed baby shower, I met up with a good friend of mine who is also pregnant (and only one week ahead of me!) She’s having a girl, so I knew “The Dream Collection” would be perfect for her sweet babe (look at those hand drawn hearts!) I also purchased 4 sets of baby wipes and stuffed it all in a diaper carrier that she had on her registry. Seen below: The Dream Collection mixed with The Delight Collection (for my boy babe!)
I love supporting a company that not only does GOOD but makes a killer product. I highly recommend them! Note: I would get a Size 2 or up. Chances are, your Mom friend will have plenty of newborn sizes, so Size 2 will last her a little longer! It also helps to play it safe in case the baby ends up being a chunk and needs a little extra wiggle room 🙂 You can see the difference in sizes below. Size 1 on the right, size 2 on the left.
2 Giant Pack of Diapers : $44.00
4 Full Sized Baby Wipes (they have travel sized wipes, too! Perfect for your diaper bag) : $ 24.00
Does anything make you swoon more than tiny baby shoes!!?!? It’s hard to imagine Baby Weir’s feet being this small, but LOOK HOW CUTE THESE ARE. I went with the basic colors so he can match a lot of his outfits, but I also saw a camo pair that i’m currently coveting, and it just might show up at my doorstep this week.
The team at Sweet N Swag has kindly offered The Weir House readers a coupon code! Take 15% off your order with the code theweirhouse.
I’ve been so tired this week. Not physically tired, but sleepy-tired. I don’t know if the third trimester is starting to catch up with me or what, but I’ve been sleeping later and need more naps.
Let’s talk about intimacy, shall we?! I’ve been told by several sources that intimacy during the second and third trimester is just wonderful! pleasurable! the best it has ever felt!
Not for this girl! More like painful! burning! the worst it has ever felt! I read that pregnancy can throw your pH levels for a loop as well as a number of other things. If you’re in this with me, I feel your pain. (I LITERALLY feel your pain!)
I’m starting to get a little overwhelmed at all of the things I have left to do before baby comes. I’m not worried about the nursery, necessarily. He’ll be sleeping in our room for at least 6 months (which is why I registered for a bassinet – see second trimester post for helpful registry information). I’m more worried about the little things that make life easier when you have the baby – comfy pj’s, nipple cream, baby monitors, baby carriers, etc. I know it sounds so silly, but I’ve heard how overwhelming and difficult life is those first 3 weeks, so if there’s a gadget out there that makes it easier on me – I WANT IT. Even something like bedside tables – we don’t even have any yet, and I know those would be so helpful to have for middle of the night feedings. Ugh! So much to do. So little time.
Symptoms this week: I still wake up with hip pain as I logged in second trimester. I think this symptom is here to stay. I also continue to get bloody boogies! And I still crave tuna salad, chicken salad and turkey sandwiches 🙂 Not much has changed. My breasts are COVERED in stretch marks now. They are bright purple and no matter what I put on them, they remain visible. I’ve gained 18 pounds thus far.
YOU GUYS. I’m reading the best book, “Bringing Up Bebe – One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting.” I’m only on chapter 4, but I cannot put it down. It’s so fascinating to see how other countries parent their children and ways we do it differently, i.e. in the beginning of the book, the author walks you through her first pregnancy while living in France. She notices how worrisome American’s tend to be throughout the pregnancy process, whereas the french women seem so laissez faire about it all. A simple example of this is that the French don’t deny themselves the foods they want to eat, though they are strict in watching their figures and weight. If they want oysters, they eat them. If they want unpasteurized cheeses, they eat them. The book is also so much more than pregnancy; it’s how they raise their kids or train them to sleep. The craziest part is that the infant mortality rate is lower in France than in the U.S. so something must be working. The book is filled to the brim with really interesting facts. I highly recommend it!
It’s the 10 WEEK COUNTDOWN! Saying that gives me major butterflies! Not only is the nursery halfway complete (we are waiting on a changing table, bookcase, changing pad, rug, and some other fun things) but our savings account is growing for the hospital bill, so I feel prepared in this aspect. What I DO NOT feel prepared for is labor in general. I just feel like I don’t know what to expect, and we also haven’t taken a hospital tour yet so it’s still very surreal to think about. I’ve gone 30 weeks talking about Baby Weir, but I haven’t actually stopped to think about what goes into the grand finale. Haha. Surprisingly, my OB hasn’t talked about it either. I mean, I literally have NO idea what goes on during labor… or how to bring in a lactation consultant… or how long a typical hospital stay is, etc. etc. etc. It’s kinda crazy!
My OB told me to start expecting daily kicks from baby. We have no issue there! Baby Weir is very active! And the more he grows, the more I feel him consistently. He’s no longer a little flutter but a wave of motion in my stomach (thinking about how much he’s grown already makes me tear up – no joke!)
My parents came in town this weekend to help us with the nursery. It’s so cute, you guys. It’s the only room in our house that feels complete, so I find myself in there a lot. We have a really great glider in his nursery, so I’ll go up there and read sometimes (our house is 2-story).
I have a lot of events going on in the next few weeks. The month of February will be my busiest month yet. I’ll be going to an out of state baby shower (Mississippi), an out of state wedding (Louisiana), throwing a bridal shower for my bestie and watching our two best friends tie the knot at the end of the month. Whew! Something tells me I’m going to be tired. 🙂 Here’s a gift guide of what I’ve given as hostess gifts if you need ideas.
Also, we had an OB appointment this week. I’ve gained 24 pounds at 30 weeks. I personally think that sounds like a lot but my OB says we’re right on track! I also asked if she could tell how big a baby is going to be at birth, and she basically said someone who is tiny can have a 10lb baby and someone who is larger can have a preemie. There is no true way of telling! My goals this week: set a hospital tour and figure out how to hire a lactation consultant. I’ll keep you updated.
We had our family baby shower in our hometown of Jackson, MS this past weekend. It was beyond amazing and the coolest part was that all 4 sides of our families were invited, so it was like having everyone we loved under one roof! We walked away with some pretty cool stuff like a humidifier, traveling sound machine, tons of clothes and baby socks, hooded towels, stuffed animals, baby books and we got our stroller and car seat! Our car was so full that we couldn’t even fit the stroller and car seat in it, so we’re having family bring it up when the baby makes his debut. We had so much fun unpacking everything and putting it in his room!
On another note, we live in a 2-story house and realized that sleeping upstairs in the guest bedroom for the first couple of months would be easier on us (his nursery is upstairs). Doing this gives us access to his changing table for middle-of-the-night changings as well as his glider to rock him when I have middle-of-the-night feedings, so we’re slowly starting to move the things we need into that bedroom, like all of his bath stuff, our sound machine, bassinet and humidifier. It’s going to be different not sleeping in the master bedroom, but I know it will only help us.
As far as symptoms go this week, I noticed something funny: as we headed back to Florida (which is a 6 hour car ride from Jackson) I noticed how uncomfortable I was when sitting for that long. We actually stopped a few times for me to stretch my legs. The funny part is, when we got home and I was walking up and down the stairs and unloading baby stuff in the nursery, I was complaining about standing up! I’m at that stage where, truthfully, i’m just downright uncomfortable all the time. There is no happy medium anymore.
When visiting my pregnant friend this past weekend, we noticed how low I was carrying (boy) as opposed to how high she was carrying (girl). She has problems with her baby kicking her ribs, and I have problems with pain in my lower back. This is probably one of the reasons I can’t get comfortable!! I also noticed that I’m starting to swell a little. When I take my shoes and socks off, I have imprints from my sock line. And if I’m flat footed, my ankles look like tree stumps! Ha!
I’m 99.9% sure I have hemorrhoids, so that’s been fun. I’ve also cried 3 times this week, mostly from stress to get things done in time, ex: all of my preggy friends have already had maternity photos taken except us. Truth be told, I don’t really want them. I just don’t feel up for it, but I know i’ll regret not doing it. And also that I’m just uncomfortable. Meh.
We took a trip to New Orleans this weekend for a friends wedding. I thought it would be a little much since my fatigue is back, but it was just what I needed. If you’re feeling a little “meh” this week like me, I would totally recommend a weekend getaway that’s no more than 4 hours from your home. It was a great refresher for us. We laughed a lot and ate really good food. And sometimes it’s nice to sleep in another bed besides your own (since i’m not sleeping, we might as well mix things up!)
My app says baby is the size of a honeydew melon, and I sure can tell! What once started out as little kicks are now full blown body rolls. I LOVE it. I think it’s so great! My hand rarely leaves my stomach. I don’t want to miss a movement!
Something I’ve noticed in my third trimester is that I’m thirsty ALL THE TIME. It’s absolutely unquenchable! And it’s so difficult to not want to drink something at 10 PM. I find myself chugging a lot of water all day!
I’ve begun to pack my hospital bag! It makes me feel better knowing that it’s ready to go whenever I need it. Of course, it’s not fully packed yet. I still have a LOT of things I need to get, but I just bought slippers and nursing bras from Nordstrom so one less thing to check off the list. I will be posting a hospital bag post soon!
I noticed recently that everyone who’s pregnant around me has an outie belly button. Mine is still an innie! I don’t know why. I’ve always had a super shallow and small belly button, so I don’t think there’s much to push out. Ha!
Third trimester comes with some serious aches and pains. If I stand for too long i’m just so sore. I know it’s the change in posture and my heavy belly, but sheesh!
We went to Target the other day and finally bought some Dreft to begin washing baby clothes and sheets. Surprisingly, I don’t have that many clothes for him. We pulled out all the stops for his nursery and the practical stuff that are necessities, but I probably have a few onesies and that’s it. My goal in the next week is to make a huge list of stuff I still need and buy it all.
I’ve been noticing myself get impatient a lot more. My husband even asked me if I was OK and mentioned that he noticed it, too. I think it’s just hormones (I mean…I hope!) Throughout this pregnancy, I’ve gone through phases where one week, I’m really patient and relaxed and the next week, I’m high strung and everyone frustrates me. This week, it’s the latter.
Also, I hate being weighed at my appointments. Every time I get my weight taken, I’m always 5 pounds heavier at the OB office. Our appointments are usually in the afternoon so I’m always weight at the end of the day with my shoes on and a belly full of food. UGH! Anyways. I’m up 28 pounds this week. Something tells me I’ll be up 35 pounds when baby gets here.
I’m having a love affair with my new maternity bra. Seriously, you guys. No one warned me how comfortable these things would be. I’ve been slowly adding to my hospital bag and knew I would need some good maternity bra’s for when baby gets here. I stumbled across the Cotton Candy Seamless nursing bra and as soon as I put it on, I wanted to buy 5 more. I’ve read to buy a maternity bra no sooner than 3 weeks before your due date, but I’ve grown a whole cup size since I got pregnant (34B, now a 34C) so I knew I could go ahead and buy some since I was buying a size larger than my pre-pregnancy size. This bra is super comfortable with straps that easily snap off. It also feels really secure and offers a lot of support with the racerback. I highly recommend!
Enough about my new bra. My hormones are off the charts cray cray this week. I cried twice in one day on Monday, and three more times throughout the week. Like I said in a post above, February has been a really busy week for us with a lot of out-of-state traveling, bridal showers, baby showers, weddings, etc. and I think it’s taken a toll on me emotionally. I truly can’t wait to lay in bed as much as possible in March. Ha!
4 weeks and 6 days left! How are we already at this point!? I’m getting more nervous by the minute!
We took a tour of the birth center this week. We did it with 4 other couples, and I was the furthest along in my pregnancy by at least 4 weeks. At first, I was thinking about how we should’ve done it sooner, but then I realized that going when you’re just weeks out not only makes it feel more real, but you also take mental notes and ask all the right questions because…hello! You’re giving birth any week now!
I was really impressed with our birth center. It’s only 8 years old, so it’s fairly new still. The labor rooms were so spacious and the bathrooms were very, very clean. They showed us the lounge and talked about how a little “jingle” plays over the intercom when a baby is born so family and friends that are waiting can know. Also, I was surprised to hear that there was no limit to how many people could be in our labor room with us, ex: if you can fit 20 people in your room, go for it! Crazy right? They are really big rooms!
They mentioned that all tests on baby are performed in the room nowadays (except circumcision) and the baby sleeps in the room, as well. I know a few hospitals back in my home state take the baby out of the room for testing as well as put them in the little room where you can peek through the glass and see all the other babies. They don’t do that here.
On the second night, you’re moved into a Post-Partum room so that your labor room becomes available for someone else. The post partum rooms are a little smaller, but still very nice. Wowza, was the hospital cold! I see why people recommend robes and socks now. Don’t forget to pack you some!
The babe has been kicking my cervix lately. It’s kinda painful! Especially when you don’t expect it. It’s like a wave of pain above your vagina.
I have a numb spot on my stomach from stretched nerves. I can barely feel my fingernails on it. It’s so crazy and feels really strange.
My best friend got married this past weekend and I was in her wedding party. With a lot of standing and walking throughout the day (and into the night), I put a lot of strain on my calf muscles and woke up at 2 AM with the worst leg cramp I’ve ever had. Part of it was not drinking enough water throughout the day, too. You guys – I’ve had surgeries and a kidney infection, but this leg cramp was by far the worst pain I’ve ever experienced in my life. It was like someone cut my leg open with a scalpel and was pulling my leg muscle like stretch armstrong. Terrible! Make sure you’re drinking plenty of water so this doesn’t happen to you! I was limping for two days!
I had a vaginal swab this week for Strep B (I think that’s what it’s called). Super quick, painless and way less invasive than a Pap smear. I will get the results next week. If I test positive, I’ll receive an antibiotic during labor.
I’ve felt a lot of emotions this week – fear, nervousness, anxiousness, stress. In fact, this week has probably been my most anxious week yet. And the feelings aren’t even about labor and delivery, but more about everything leading up to that. Am I prepared? Do I have everything I need? Have I saved enough for the hospital bill? Will I continue working after labor? You see, as a sole business owner, I don’t get “maternity leave” or free healthcare. I have clients who expect me to fill the role that I promised them, and being the only one I know who can do that role, I run into the problem of, “who will take my place while i’m out?” I do think I’ve finally figured out a solution, and I feel better that I now have a plan in place. Still, I’m hoping it all goes smoothly so that I can take in those first few weeks of motherhood!
We are now doing weekly visits at the OB’s office. I truly feel like I live there now, ha! I thought at my 36 week checkup that they would check my cervix for dilation. They didn’t do that this week. I’m not sure why! We did get to see little man’s face during this visit which was a nice surprise. We’ve only had two ultrasounds up until this point, and I didn’t think we’d get a third. I actually wouldn’t call it an “ultrasound”. It was an iPad on a stand with wheels, and it was brought into our sunny waiting room (normally ultrasound rooms are very dark so you can see everything. Also, ultrasound’s are generally projected onto a Television for easy viewing). It was kinda difficult to see everything on the monitor! But I was really happy I got to see his face and see him play with his hands. She couldn’t determine if he was head down, but she did keep saying he was “really low”. I feel his hiccups low in my uterus, so I think he’s head down. She also told me only 5% of babies are born feet first, so it’s very rare for a baby to not be head down.
The results from my vaginal swab came back negative. Woo hoo! No need for an antibiotic during labor.
We recently purchased everything that was still needed off of our registry and got our big Target box in the mail today – baby shampoo, baby lotion, baby body wash, Lanolin cream and other things for breast therapy, our Tula baby carrier, more onesies, a car mirror, baby thermometer, pacifiers (both newborn and 3+ months) and since we live in a two story home and the baby will be downstairs for much of the year, we purchased a pack-n-play to go in front of our bed. I read that the baby sleeping in your room reduces his/her chance of SIDS, so we had to figure out an alternative other than a crib upstairs. I’ve heard good things about the pack-n-play: affordable, long lasting, easy to break down for travel. We were considering an expensive bassinet for $299 (the Guava bassinet). Our friend had the same one and it looked really nice, but after asking her opinion and her telling us to go with a pack-n-play, we pulled the trigger. It also has a changing pad for middle of the night changings (so we don’t have to hike upstairs) so I’m excited about this purchase! Lastly, since i was pregnant much of fall and winter, I had no maternity shorts! So I finally got me a pair of Old Navy shorts with belly band so I can wear them postpartum until my stomach goes back to its regular shape. All in all, this definitely added MUCH relief to my busy brain.
I’m not out of the dog house yet. I still need a robe for the hospital, leggings, hands-free pumping bra, going home outfit and belly band to tighten my stomach, but if baby comes before I can get those things, I’ll survive.
On average, I used to wake up at 6:30 AM every morning. This last month, I haven’t been getting out of bed until around 8:30 AM! And the craziest part is that I go to bed early, sometimes around 8 PM. But I have no complaints! I know that sleep is hard to come by when baby gets here, so I’m soaking up as much sleep as I can.
No OB appointment this week as my doctor is on vacation in the Poconos. She mentioned that we could come in and have a nurse visit (which just consists of weight check, blood pressure check and fetal heart rate) but that it was optional, and we could skip it since we show no signs of a high risk pregnancy…so we skipped it. Hoping to get my cervix checked at next week’s appointment so we can get an idea of where we’re at!
The wedding rings have officially come OFF. My fingers are swollen these days and it has been uncomfortable wearing them, so as of right now, they’re sitting in a dish by my sink.
We’ve been trying to get out more during these last few weeks: hanging out with friends, plant shopping and tending to the yard, dinners out. We even got a couple’s massage this past weekend for Tyler’s 28 birthday, and it was amazing! Mamas – you deserve to pamper yourself. Your body is working hard to support a new LIFE, so get out and get pampered! Go get a pedicure! Or a facial! Or a prenatal massage! It is so worth it. It was nice to not have to think about doing anything but relaxing. The prenatal massage was definitely a new experience. Instead of laying on my back and stomach, they asked me to lay on my side and put a pillow underneath my head and my legs (which is exactly how I sleep). It felt just as good as a “real” Swedish massage, and I’d go back tomorrow if I could afford another one. My favorite part was when she rubbed my feet. They’re just so sore and swollen, and it offered much relief! Also, don’t believe the myth that a foot rub/pedicure will send you into labor. All of my friends who have been through pregnancy got pedicures weeks before their due dates and nothing happened. I’m living proof!
And I hate to say it, but the cravings don’t stop here. I am all about some big bowls of kids cereal these days. I literally cannot wait until it’s time to eat a bowl of cereal. I never eat more than a bowl, but it’s so tempting to want a second. It’s kinda crazy! Haha.
We got our pack-n-play in this week. It is pictured below.
It’s totally met all of my expectations. It fits at our bed end to-a-tee. I love that it has a place for him to sleep as well as a changing table. We’ve filled the pouch with diaper wipes and diapers. All we need is baby! Highly recommend this item. It was a breeze to put together, and I can see why mom’s prefer it because the breakdown is easy for travel (and we live in another state than our home state)
Week 38, you will forever go down as the week we got to pick Baby Weir’s birthday!
This week, we went in for a cervical exam. I didn’t know what that entailed. In my head, I suspected it would be the same as getting a Pap smear. Truthfully, it’s a little more painful than that but ironically a little less invasive. There is no metal speculum. Just a doctor and her hand (and a glove, of course!) But boy does she reach in deep! The whole process lasts for maybe 8 seconds. Just in those 8 seconds, she’s able to tell how dilated you are, if the baby is head down, and if you’re cervix is thinning. This week, I was 2 cm dilated, 80% thinned and baby was most certainly head down. When she first began the exam, her comments were, “Oh my god, he is so low!” I can feel it, too. Not only does he head-butt my cervix all day, but sometimes he’s so low that it truly makes me waddle.
After the exam, she asked, “How do you feel about an induction?” to which we agreed since we have out-of-town family who would like to be present for the birth, and an induction is pretty much the only way they would be able to make it in time. She said my chances for a C-section were 1%, the baby was in position and ready to go and that performing an induction at 39 weeks would be absolutely safe. We said OK (although our faces said otherwise – deer in headlights! Is this really happening!?)
After the exam, we made our way to her computer where she pulled out a calendar and said, “Pick a date!” It was so overwhelming. We had a few dates to pick from and we settled on March 28, which was my husbands exact due date when my mother in law was pregnant. He liked that they both shared the same birthday month, too. Once we confirmed the date with her, she called the hospital and put us down for a 4 AM induction. Now that we finally had an end in sight, everything became very, very real. We made our 2 month, postpartum appointment and left the OB’s office all giddy and in shock. We now have 7 days to do everything we had planned on doing before baby gets here!
This gave me a burst of adrenaline, and I asked Tyler if we could go to Target and do some last minute shopping that would put my mind at ease. He said yes. We then ate dinner at our favorite pizza shop and headed to Target.
I am a list maker and had been keeping a list of things I needed before baby so I was ready to GO – we got all the necessities like toilet paper, paper towels, 409, dish soap, laundry detergent, hospital bag snacks, face lotion, makeup wipes, shampoo, a travel sized shampoo/conditioner kit for hospital, bandaids, razors, paper plates, paper cups, sugar, olive oil, drinks, baby powder, butt paste, vasoline (for his circumcision), baby hats, and I even left with a hands free pumping bra (I have heard really good things about this!) We ended up spending over $400, and I cannot tell you the last time I spent this much at one store, but it felt SO GOOD to knock out my list.
My OBGYN considers week 13 as the second trimester, so i’m going with it (hey, anything to get me out of the dreaded first trimester!)
I feel so GREAT! I actually feel my energy coming back whereas every task during the first trimester took so much more energy to do. I remember asking myself during first tri, “Am I making myself feel tired?”, “Are these food aversions in my head?”, “Is this all a game I’m playing with myself?” The answer: NO. You have absolutely no control over your body during pregnancy. It does whatever it wants to do. If you don’t like a certain food, it’s not by choice. If you’re tired, it’s not by choice. It’s your body preparing for baby! Looking back, I realize all of that now. I just started drinking coffee again, and I couldn’t stand the taste of it in first trimester. Isn’t that the craziest thing!? #thepoweroftheplacenta (speaking of placenta – have you read how big a role the placenta plays in pregnancy? It’s mind boggling. I’ll have to find the article that I read and link it here, but it helps level out your hormones allowing you to feel as good as you do in second trimester, and that’s just the beginning of all the miraculous things the placenta does!)
We got a call from our OBGYN this week with results from our Panorama test that we took last week at 12 weeks (a blood draw that tests for gender/chromosomal abnormalities). We were told our tests returned normal and low risk. We are grateful for a healthy baby. We asked them to stick the gender into a card and that i’d pick it up later that day. We had a fun night planned around the gender reveal with a picnic on the beach, but when I got home from picking up the card and it was only 1 PM, we COULD.NOT.WAIT. So we decided we would open the envelope (dun dun dunnn).
I placed the envelope on the kitchen table and waited for Tyler to break out the Welch’s Grape Juice and two glass flutes (you know – for cheers-ing). We both thought at one point we would pass out from pure anticipation. We got to where we were so nervous that we’d barely rip the envelope and then have to set it down just to catch our breath. I think we set the envelope down at least 5 times to jump and hug and laugh. It was seriously funny! Finally, we flapped open the piece of paper and my eye immediately went to “MALE”. Tyler said he was scanning the entire page looking for a color or a pie chart of percentages. Haha! Good thing I started crying, pointing and screaming, or I think it would’ve taken him all day!
I was wailing, “I knewwwwwww it was a booooooooy, iiiiiiii kneeeeew itttttt”, and I had to make sure Tyler knew I was crying from joy and not disappointment. It’s a boy! I am so happy! I really DID know it this whole time. After we collected our thoughts (and emotions), we poured another glass of sparkling juice and headed to the baby room where we sat and talked about our expectations as parents. I was asking Tyler questions like, “what do boys do all day?” (Haha!!) And I was telling him how I’ll need a lot of help with Christmas gifts since Tyler’s area of expertise is the boy’s section in Toys R Us. When dinner rolled around, we decided to get out and celebrate so we went to our favorite Japanese restaurant and ate a really great meal. It was truly a great, great day and one that I won’t forget.
The following day, we were so excited to know the gender that we decided to talk about names. I was in the middle of making S’mores Rice Krispie Treats and Tyler had the idea to write our name selections on a large piece of paper taped to the wall, so we headed to the baby room with snacks and a pen. It took us about a day to make the final decision, but it was a decision we both came to with ease, and I love that we can call him by his name when we talk about him now. We plan to keep the name our little secret ’til birth!
Like I mentioned at the start of this post, I’ve been getting new symptoms! My nipples are chapped and peeling. I have no idea why or where this came from, but I’ve asked other mothers and most have not experienced this symptom. So crazy! I have been putting coconut oil and Bio oil on them, both of which have helped over time. The good news is they are not as sensitive as they were in first trimester.
My pregnancy dreams are in FULL force – I had a dream that I was breastfeeding a cat. I mean, what the…?!
I’ve been getting intense leg pain when I sleep which is something that didn’t happen to me during my First Trimester. I’ll wake up with a sore/pulsating/tingling leg and switch sides which means I am in FULL fish-flopping mode, all night long.
This week was a pretty great week. I know we still have so many milestones ahead like the nursery, feeling the first baby kick, touring the hospital and a baby shower, but this week will be hard to top. If you’ve chosen to find out the gender in the next few weeks, can I just say what a difference it makes in the overall pregnancy experience!? I find myself at random times of the day seeing his face around the house and calling out his name. We are so excited!
This week has been a pretty easy one other than the itching. My boobs itch, my stomach itches, my sides itch. I’ve been trying not to scratch it for fear of stretch marks, but it’s so hard not to!
Oh, and BEWARE: In your second trimester, your taste for food will come back with a vengeance!!! You will be a hungry savage at every hour of the day – so hungry that you question having two lunches (and two dinners). I can eat at 8 AM, 11 AM, snack at 2 PM, and fight the urge to eat another meal at 4 PM (to which, I lose… and eat another meal). YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED. Also, I’m still craving comfort foods. Give me all the mashed potatoes, bagels and spaghettio’s. I know, I know. None of it makes sense to me, either.
BREAST MILK. Yes, you heard me correctly. The boob leakage is in full force!
For your information: my boobs are small (they haven’t grown much during my pregnancy) so I don’t wear a bra around the house…like, ever…which is probably how I was aware of this symptom so early. It was a Saturday morning, and I was washing the dishes only to notice my shirt was wet, directly over my nipples. I told myself that water had gotten on my shirt, and I kept about my day. Lunch time: I’m eating at the table and look down to notice my nipples are wet. I was really shocked at how messy I’d been and couldn’t believe I got my shirt wet again! Skip to dinner: I’m on the phone with my mom and realize my nipples feel cold. I look down to notice my shirt is soaked. This time, it was obvious that the culprit wasn’t water. It was my colostrum coming through! I screamed over the phone, “MY NIPPLES ARE LEAKING” and my mom was like, “No way, already?!” …Crazy, right? Don’t let me freak you out: this symptom is on and off. It doesn’t happen all the time. In fact, the following day I had nothing! However, I’ve noticed a common pattern: when my breasts do begin to leak, I know that they will leak for the rest of the day. I’ve already woken up with a wet shirt, so I lined my bra with panty liners to catch the goods (only a temporary fix til I make a run to Target for breast pads). The doc says it’s a normal symptom to have during pregnancy, but I can’t believe I’m experiencing it earlier than some of my other pregnant friends.
Prepare yourself for bleeding gums and a bloody nose during the second trimester. I’m sure these symptoms don’t happen to everyone, but i’ve already woken up with a bloody nose and it’s not uncommon for me to brush my teeth and see blood (this is coming from an avid flosser)
We had our 2nd appointment this week! It was a quick one: pee in a cup, listen to the heart from a fetal doppler and talk to the doc. He had such a strong heartbeat! The nurse said the heartbeat is normally difficult to find at this stage in pregnancy, so when she found his heartbeat right off the bat, she was stunned. She couldn’t stop talking about how surprised she was that it was so easy to find! We didn’t get to see baby on ultrasound this time, but our next appointment in 4 weeks is a brain/organ scan, so I’m counting down the days until I get to see my babe again! My weight on the scale has gone up 1.5 pounds making that 3 pounds gained thus far in my pregnancy.
In the last days of week 15, I was sitting at my kitchen table and felt the baby flutter for the first time! As I’m typing this, I feel him kicking! It’s too early for Tyler to feel the kicks from the outside, but it has been pretty amazing to experience, and he seems to be squirm often! I feel him move every day now.
This week, I really feel like my bump has started to become visible. It’s not “large” by any means, but it’s extremely low and round, and I can wear a tight t-shirt and get comments from friends. Toting this little bump around makes me happy.
Don’t be fooled! The second trimester is great and all, but you will still experience some crazy (and painful) symptoms. For the past 2 weeks, I’ve been struggling with hip pain while I sleep. I wake up from a burning/aching hip (the one I’ve been sleeping on) and apparently it’s from a hormone called relaxin that relaxes the ligaments in the pelvis and softens and widens the cervix. I read that sleeping on your soft hip allows the bone to move from the joint causing the burning sensation I’ve been feeling. It’s pretty terrible! Not only do I have to avoid my back and stomach when I sleep, but the sides aren’t that great either! BOO HOO. You can read more about the symptom here and how other preggy ladies are combating the pain! So far, nothing seems to help me. I’m a lost cause!
Week 17: For the past 2 weeks, I’ve been trying to get Tyler to feel baby kicks from the outside. I’ll say, “He’s kicking, gimme your hand!” but our baby boy is still little, so it’s been almost impossible for Tyler to feel anything. Like I’ve said before, it’s such a magical feeling, but it’s difficult finding the words to describe it to him, so I was determined for Tyler to feel it for himself!
After a big dinner of shrimp wraps and broccoli, we sat in bed talking. Baby Weir was kicking – hard – and I told Tyler to place his hand on top of my stomach. We really didn’t think he’d be able to feel anything yet, but one hard kick later, and I swear his eyes could light up a Christmas tree. His mouth dropped and he sat there, frozen and not moving. It was almost as if he was in disbelief. Experiencing his reaction has been one of the most precious sights I’ve ever witnessed in my life. I reminded myself in that exact moment to hold onto that feeling : watching a Dad feel his baby for the first time. I hope I will always remember the way his face looked. It was a true gift.
I haven’t had any pregnancy headaches in a while which is AWESOME! And I’ve been sleeping like Rip Van Winkle at night. I still wake up with leg pain, but I swap sides, and I’m out like a light.
I’ve been making breakfast every morning this week. It’s been my most favorite thing to do! I love to cook, and I read that breakfast is so important for a pregnant woman, so I’m up-and-at-em at 6:30 frying bacon, glazing cinnamon rolls, flipping eggs. It’s a special time I get to spend with Tyler before he leaves for work. I hope we can keep this up!
Cravings: still eating tuna fish like it’s my job. bagels and cream cheese. turkey sandwiches. Nothing has changed much!
I was making my bed the other day when I noticed I had four pillows on my side. Four! I used to sleep with just one! Now it’s as if I won’t sleep without a whole pillow fort around my body, and four doesn’t even seem to be enough! My current sleep position is as follows: left side sleeper with a pillow in between legs, pillow behind my head, body pillow on top of head pillow turned vertically to run down my side, large sham resting on headboard for when I wake up and want to sleep upright. If that’s the case, then I gather all of my pillows and put them under my waist and back. Whew!
The irony about my sleeping position is that I’m not even sleeping this week. Week 10 and week 18 have been my worst no-sleep-weeks. I don’t know if its because my body temperature is high, and I cant cool down, but there is no sleep happening for this girl at the moment.
Oh, and welcome, bloody nose #2!
Week 19: This week, I welcomed two stretch marks on my boobs – one on each boob in the exact same spot. I’ve been lathering them with oil, but they’re still there. I may lose the stretch mark battle, folks! I guess some things are just inevitable!
We had our 19 week checkup this week : brain/organ ultrasound scan and talking with the doctor. Baby Weir is measuring at exactly where he needs to be! His lips are full and show no cleft lip, his heart has four chambers that are pumping blood, his brain measures the right width, and we are beyond grateful! …though i’m not as grateful for the 5 pounds I’ve gained since my last visit. Whoops! Since the beginning of my pregnancy, I have gained 8 pounds thus far (thank you, ice cream and bagels) Grow, baby, grow! Here is an updated ultrasound pic of Baby Weir! His little feet are over his head. He is so active!
I’ve also noticed how hard my uterus is! I read that it’s muscles in the uterus tightening. It honestly feels like there’s a rock in there! Because it’s hard and rounded, this week is the first week that my belly has actually felt like a pregnant belly!
It’s also the first week that I’ve experienced Round Ligament Pain. It’s TERRIBLE! I walk around like a hobbled, old woman. It doesn’t hurt if I bend over and give my muscles some slack, but when I stand straight, I get crazy pains on the lower right side of my uterus. The pain is strong enough to bring me to my knees. Yyyyyouch! Lots of firsts this week.
Week 20: Well, I think the frustrations of pregnancy are hitting me hard this week. With my growing belly not showing signs of slowing down anytime soon, it’s been hard to dress myself lately. I’m officially at that point where all the clothes in my closet are too tight – belts hardly fit around my waist, all of my button down shirts want to pop open, vests wont close past my breasts, and any dress I wear is pulled up too high by my belly. I would love nothing more than to go out and buy some new clothes, but in a season when you’re busy buying for others, it’s just not in the budget! I just get stressed thinking about holiday parties and gatherings coming up that I have no clothes for. This part sucks. This part sucks real bad.
I’m also at the point where I have difficulty bending over to put on my shoes. Sitting on the staircase seems to help, but only if I don’t care for oxygen. Oh, and I can’t shave anything below my belly button because I can’t see! Does it sound like i’m whining? THAT’S BECAUSE I AM!
Other than my petty problems, I’m starting to get to where I can’t imagine not having dessert once a day, whether that be a donut, a slice of cake or a scoop of ice cream. I am literally a vampire that needs blood! I was telling Tyler recently how we used to rarely have desserts around the house. We never had bad food…only simple snacks like hummus, apples, peanut butter, nuts, etc. Now I just want shells and cheese and pop tarts and oatmeal cream pies and .99 cent boxed cake and cookie dough and anything processed. Ha! The good news is I’ve been walking twice a day (once in the morning, once after work). It just feels so incredible outside!
Week 21: Oh, Thanksgiving food. You tasted really good this week, but you came with acid reflux and IBS (x2). #WORTHIT.
We spent the Thanksgiving holidays with my mom and dad this week. I haven’t seen my parents since I’ve felt Baby Weir’s first kicks, so my mom finally got to feel him wiggle! I loved watching her reaction. It’s really special sharing that moment with friends and family.
This week has been pretty easy other than acid reflux and IBS. For lunch one day, we had tomato soup and grilled cheese, and for dinner that same night, I ate taco soup (also filled with tomatoes). Tomatoes are so acidic so this was my first bout of acid reflux. YOUCH! Apparently it’s not good to lie down when you get acid reflux, but it was 10 PM, and I had a full belly so I slept upright for the rest of the night.
And I’ll spare you the details about IBS (other than it was awful, and I think it was from all of the rich thanksgiving food I ate)
Week 22: I BOUGHT BREAST PADS. No more washing my bra every other day! Pretty pumped about this.
I am slowly realizing that I can’t do things the same way that I once could, pre pregnancy. Like i’ve mentioned above, putting on my shoes or bending over for anything is beginning to get difficult. Even more, I was surprised to find out that wearing high heels isn’t the best idea. I am a girly girl through and through: I like my sequins and my heels. Now that we’re smack in the middle of holiday season, I REALLY like my heels. I wore some for work the other day and when I took my shoes off at home, my feet were so swollen! I’m pretty sad about it considering there’s a Christmas party in the coming week…to which I will be wearing heels then, too 🙂
Week 23: It wasn’t a very eventful week, pregnancy wise and from what my OBGYN tells me, “boring is a good thing” so I’m not complaining!
I’ve gained a total of 13 pounds thus far, so I’m right on track! Woot woot. I still wake up with sore hips and flip flop throughout the night, so I think that symptom is here to stay ’til baby. My body temperature has been extremely hot as of late, so I sleep with just the top sheet on the bed, and turn the A/C on 70 degrees (even if it is winter time!) And I’ve noticed more stretch marks appearing on my boobs. Other than that, 23 weeks down, 17 weeks to go!
Week 24: Have you ever heard the saying, “Pregnancy prepares you for NO sleep when the baby comes?” It’s true. I haven’t been getting much sleep. I feel like as my stomach grows, my sides become harder and rounder so when I sleep on my side it feels like it’s being jammed into the mattress. I can’t wait to sleep on my stomach once the baby comes!
Also, I’ve been extra gassy this week. Why do I have a feeling that this part is only gonna get worse?
Week 25: I’ve jumped up to a total of 16 pounds thus far. 3 more pounds since week 23! I should probably slow down on the gingerbread men.
Week 26: Ah, there’s nothing like being pregnant during the holidays: the food! the post-food naps! the food! It has been such a treat. I’m at 16 pounds thus far. I do get frantic that I’m gaining too fast sometimes. It’s difficult watching the numbers on the scale grow! But I’m healthy and baby is healthy and that’s all that matters. Praise the good Lord!
I’ve been told by several family members this week that I’ve “popped” again. In laymen’s terms, that means I’m bigger than the last time they saw me which was around 21 weeks over Thanksgiving. I can definitely see a difference, too! I put on a shirt this morning and was like, “WOAH”. Baby is growing!
Let’s be real for a second. Some of this process hasn’t been so amazing. Can I take a moment to vent?
Throughout this experience, I’ve collected 3 of the most common questions that every single person asks when they see me:
1) When are you due?
2) How do you feel?
3) Do you have a name picked out yet?
Those are the 3 magical questions these days! I think it’s so thoughtful that people care enough to ask. I don’t mind answering them, even if it is 100x a day. The only question that’s a little frustrating is when we tell people that we’re not announcing the baby name until he’s here, and they take that as an opportunity to guess the name. I do NOT understand that. If I wanted you to know, I would tell you! So for the second baby, instead of explaining that we’re not telling, I’ll fib and say we haven’t picked one out yet. I wish I had thought to do that on this round. It’s not that we fear the name being taken; it’s that we don’t want to hear opinions about it. I also like the fact that it’s a little secret that’s shared between Tyler and I. To all you new mama’s out there, take heed: instead of being pestered, just say you don’t know.
Another thing that has been frustrating is when someone comments on something other than my growing stomach, like, my growing butt. I am fully aware that it has gotten big: my thighs touch now; my boobs are exploding out of my bra; i’m sure I’ve gained some meat on my buns! But that has nothing to do with pregnancy, and if you wouldn’t tell someone that to their face non-pregnant, don’t do it now! It’s hurtful! I have always had “hips” and a “booty” so this is not news to me, but I’ve had more comments on my butt than I can count, and it doesn’t make me feel pretty.
I really have enjoyed sharing this process with everyone. Truly, it makes the experience so enjoyable! And maybe the comments come with the territory. I just wish people would second guess before saying certain things. I can tell you one thing – I have learned A LOT while being pregnant and know all the things to say (AND NOT TO SAY) to future pregnant women.
Week 27: I miss regular clothes. I thought maternity dressing would be fun, but when thousands of online choices are narrowed down to hundreds, it’s not my idea of a good time. Bah Humbug.
I’ve been battling a cold this week with a super itchy and sore throat. I clear it about 100 times a night and my husband now knows what it’s like to get no sleep (muahaha!) My OB says our immune systems are suppressed when we’re pregnant so my cold might linger longer. Goody, goody gum drops!
I know it doesn’t seem like it sometimes, but I am loving pregnancy. I complain a lot on here, but I simply want to tell both sides of the story – the fun parts and the not so fun parts. A fun part? The baby has been kicking so much lately that I saw my first stomach wave. I was so baffled by it that my mouth dropped wide open! I also felt his first set of hiccups. It feels like a tiny, rhythmic heartbeat that pulsates for 5 minutes or so. It’s pretty awesome.
I had my glucose test this week and I PASSED. I am so relieved! I drank the lime flavor sugar drink (which I hear is not as bad as the orange flavor) but it was still icky. My two other pregnant friends also took the glucose test the same time as me (in other states) and said it gave them cramps and an upset stomach. It didn’t do that to me, but just know that it happens! Both of them passed, too. Since you have to wait an hour to get your blood tested, my facility requires that I watch an epidural video during that waiting period, regardless if I’m having an epidural or not. After I watched it, I had to sign a sheet saying I did. I kind of wish they didn’t make me watch it. I was on board for an epidural and now epidurals seem scarrrryyyyy!
On another note, I made a baby registry this week. Woo Hoo! I used MyRegistry.com. Super easy! I was really overwhelmed at where to start since there are so many things you need when you have a baby, but after a ton of research and Googling, I got the hang of it. The only thing I could think to do for you is screenshot everything I registered for in hopes that it helps you! A few pointers: 1. Don’t register for nice newborn clothes. My friends (and Google) tells me that they’ll live in a few onesies those first months. Spend money on nicer clothes as they get older, like 6 months. 2. I’m also breastfeeding so I registered for a lot of stuff to make that easier (nipple cream!) 3. You’ll want to register for at least 3 sets of crib sheets because, chances are, one or two will be ruined with pee, poo and upchuck. 4. I didnt register for as many swaddles because I’ve already purchased a few but my good friend says you can never have enough swaddles! 5. We really liked the Nanit baby monitor because the goose neck hangs over the crib (and the app records the baby’s sleep) rather than placing a baby monitor inside the crib. 6. If you’re breastfeeding, I have read RAVE reviews on the Lanolin nipple gel pads. They offer so much relief for sore nipples. Also, I registered for a nipple everter because I read that when your breasts become engorged, your nipples can flatten giving babies a hard time to latch. 7. We prefer pampers over Huggies from the reviews we’ve read. Pamper’s diapers also have a yellow line on the back of every diaper that turns blue when wet. 8. Don’t forget a bottle steamer and scrubber. We had a friend gift us one, so you won’t see that below. 9. Baby books are a great way to bond with your baby and are so good for healthy brain development, even as an infant! 10. Humidifiers keep a baby healthy 11. You’ll see that I registered for baby gowns from Target. Some moms love these and other moms don’t. My mom personally loved them because diaper changes were easy. I also heard a mom say she didn’t love them because they would ride up and expose the baby’s legs a lot. The choice is up to you! 12. I’ve been told that it’s a good idea if your diaper bag is a backpack. It’s easier to carry when your load is heavy! 13. I registered for “Moms On Call” book because my friend swears by it. It’s written by two pediatric nurse moms who give you sleep schedule advice as well as other parenting advice. My friends baby is shy of 4 months old and sleeping straight through the night! And of course, I have not personally tried any of these products, but I have done extensive research and I think I picked a good bunch! Don’t hesitate to ask if you have any questions!
How am I already in the third trimester, guys? This blows my mind. I’m trying to soak it all up while I can! Starting to get sentimental about it all.